The Forgotten Art
While holding forms an integral part of many physical interactions, and while it can, by itself, generate intense emotions and sensations, it is rarely investigated on its own merit. Many people are simply not aware of the special skills involved in holding a partner in such a way that generates an enjoyable experience. But in the same way that a kiss is not a kiss, a hug is not a hug. And often we do not actually feel safely held, even though that is what we long for (we can only truly let go when we know that someone will be there to hold us). Once we understand what it is that makes being held a less than satisfying experience, we can be clearer about what it is that we wish to feel in an embrace and where to place our attention.
In the workshop we will focus on the flexible, measured exchange and the experience of strength. Sometimes we are not even aware of the fact that our partner would like to feel our strength. But anyway, how much strength feels right? We will find that it is not only important how to hold someone but also whether the way we are holding them meets their needs and wishes in a particular moment. Or maybe they do not wish to be held at all.
As well as with “normal” hugs we will experiment with different other ways of holding someone. Holding will be understood as a means and an instrument that can be used and interpreted in various ways. We will be looking at the entire spectrum from the caring, protective embrace to playful martial grappling where we can test the limits of our strength.
The workshop draws inspiration from play fighting as well as from martial arts.
Participants wrote us:
“Strength and Intimacy / Freedom in restriction: This was the workshop that had the most profound impact on me. It explores the large space between a hello hug and sex, which is actually as we discovered a very large space. It examines through theory and practice this intimate interaction that we actually never ever really talk about, touching, hugging and holding. It is definitely not a stroking/tantric workshop, but a very practical workshop that provides a very educational experience without crossing your personal boundaries. An immense amount of pure fun with some amazing experiences, make sure that you don’t miss this workshop as it was the best one yet!” (Alan)